I want to share something with you. It is the story of how we first became parents. It isn’t filled with cute announcements, a creative way to tell the dad to be that he is a dad to be, or a baby shower. There was no gender reveal or pregnancy shoot. There was infertility, tears, prayers and answers.
We got married in 2010 after a quick engagement. Hubby had job starting in a different state and we wanted to be married before then so two months was all the time my wonderful mother (bless her) had to prepare a wedding for her starry-eyed daughter whose head was in a cloud (sorry mom). Hubby and I knew we didn’t want to wait to have children and we didn’t feel that we should use birth control anyways. We hoped a baby would come soon but the baby never did. When I described the time I thought I was pregnant to the doctor he said that I had most likely miss carried. My body did that twice. I cried….a lot.
We moved again so my husband could finish school. Two years went by. We prayed. We used the bit of savings we had on some fertility tests and treatment. Still there was no baby. We prayed some more and fasted. I couldn’t shake the feeling that we were supposed to be parents and that their was a child who needed us. We desperately wanted the privilege of having children in our home. Being a mom was the thing that I wanted to be more then anything when I grew up and I just knew that Hubby and I were meant to be parents.
Adoption was something that I had always thought I would do. At the time our church had an adoption agency where the costs were significantly lower then any other agency. The fees were so low that we could afford it even on our student budget. We also considered adopting a waiting child from foster care, being foster parents or just continuing to focus on the chance of a biological child. We did our research, prayed some more and then felt that Heavenly Father wanted us to be foster parents.
We took the classes, got our home study, and then got our license. Amidst all of the todos I felt to ask the Lord that our first placement would be one that would need us forever. A placement that would make it so we were never childless again. We both knew that not all of our kids would stay. We were both ok with that. We also knew that sometimes kids have to stay, so for our first go around I figured it wouldn’t hurt to ask Heavenly Father for one that was going to need a new forever home. When we became available we were placed with a wonderful little boy. We became Mom and Dad to him. Two years later that little boy is our forever son and we are so grateful for him.
Have a g’day,